From time to time I’m exposed to reality TV. Because a lot of the ratings are based on dramatic interaction between the characters, you see intense dialogue including advice giving. “Just do the right thing.” “I need the old you back in my life.” “You can do this. Just make it happen.” The striking feature…
Category Archives: Collaboration
Pushing People to “Accept” Labels Can Push Them Away
“You can’t get help until you admit you have a problem.” “If only he would accept that he has _________, then he could start helping himself.” “If she just said she had (insert label here), then she could be on her journey toward healing.” Have we heard folks say this before, or maybe said this,…
How to Choose a Therapist (Part 1): Initial Contact
Many people avoid things they are not familiar with, especially experiences where they may be unsure what they need to know to make the right decision. This can be especially worrisome when looking for a counselor who you can trust and you will feel comfortable with. This article is the first of a two part…
Productive Helping- Part 1
From the HELPER’s perspective (Article 1 of 2) Altruism is the idea of helping someone without expecting or necessarily getting anything in return. Some help others out of a sense or responsibility, because we think it’s the “right” thing to do, it makes us feel good about ourselves, or we actually like doing what it…